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It's also good to remember that in any relationship, the party that demonstrates the least interest has the most control. premier3is Man, sorry to hear the ride ended on that one. This one seemed promising. She may have been one of those super-friendly but conflict-averse people who have a really tough time saying anything that might make someone else uncomfortable. Dust yourself off and get back in the game, when you're ready.
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I did that for almost 7 years before one popped up that I could really relate to...so it took me by surprise.
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When I first started...I felt so bad having to tell them that especially if they were coming on that strong. I would try to ignore them, drag it out...but eventually I learned it's best to cut bait and be upfront as soon as possible. At least that way everyone can move on.
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The "good getting to know you as well, good luck in your search" bullshit is something a nice guy would say. My last few responses to the above have been, "your loss" and nothing else. My ex reached out to me after 7 years. When I asked her why, she stated "well, I hadn't heard from you and wondered how you were doing". That translates to "You were doing fine without me and I was curious".
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I strung someone along a bit, about 3 years back. I was hanging in there and hoping I'd develop romantic feelings for her because we were such a good fit in every other aspect. But it never happened. She eventually initiated a conversation about it and I had to "fess up" and I felt pretty shitty about how I had handled things. So even without malice, we can do some damage. Self-awareness and candor are really important.
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No wonder why these females are treated like shit because when you treat them well, you are 'desperate' or 'too nice'. Treating people well, engaging in meaningful conversations and trying to meet more often should be a positive sign of interest, not be deterring these bitches away and make you 'desperate'. What a joke. Dating these days is shit. |
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They are more straightforward and upfront...well most are. What I always did when I had a date, was I never contacted the person back. If she initiated contact with me and I wanted to continue....then we would do whatever. But if they are interested...they will get back to you. Or they could even be testing you. And if they were testing me I didn't want anything to do with that either...so problem solved. I guess we didn't have a lot of single guys in my area as I remember being texted back by girls less than an hour after coming off a date with them.
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We both ordered a Tito's and tonic, sat at a side table and started conversing firstly about both of us being relieved that we actually looked like our pictures and secondly didn't seem to be psychopaths. As we are chatting she was the first to break the touch barrier and put her hands on my leg as we were laughing about some of our mutually held dating disasters. Waitress comes, we order food and continue talking. She brings up that she showed her friends and daughters my picture and all of them thought I was foreign and lying to her about my ancestry. Lol. I told her it happens all the time...no big deal. More small talk about cars...she is a former AMG owner, and mutual casual touching. Food arrives and she serves my plate for me as I order another round of drinks. We continue talking during the meal and at about 7:30, or so I let her know that I need to depart. We both agreed to meet again on Saturday. I clear the bill ($46.00...I love happy hour.) and she grabs my hand as we walk to the elevator in order to exit. She couldn't find the button and I hit it, the elevator comes and we board it. She hits the down button and looks at my lips, smiling so I go in for a kiss as we are descending. She kisses back hard and we keep going until the car stops. The elderly couple was mortified. (Just kidding) We exit the car, walking hand in hand up the ramp, I open the door for her and she says, "I parked near what I think is your car." She did. She drove an X3 and I was in a 5 series loaner from the dealership. We talked for a few more minutes, made loose plans for Saturday and kissed again. I closed her door, waved goodbye and went to my car and departed. A good, normal date. What a relief.
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